UNITED NATIONS, Dec. 1, 2012 (IPS/GIN) - As the international
community came together on Dec. 1 to mark World AIDS Day, a new report
from UNAIDS reveals that while significant progress has been made in
preventing and treating HIV/AIDS, stigmatisation, violence and
discrimination against members of the gay community continue
relentlessly.
Michael Ighodaro, a gay rights activist recently diagnosed with
HIV/AIDS, is living proof of the incessant human rights violations in
his native country of Nigeria.
After he was brutally attacked, beaten and violated and his
apartment burned down, Ighodaro was forced to flee to the United States.
He now lives in New York and continues his work as an activist to raise
awareness about violence against gays.
“In Nigeria, it was like I was living a lie. In the streets you
cannot walk the way you want to walk and cannot openly confess you’re
gay,” he told IPS.
Ighodaro spoke to IPS U.N. correspondent Rebecca Hanser about his
life and struggles in Nigeria as a gay man with HIV and his work as a
gay rights activist.
Excerpts from the interview follow.
Q: Having been born in Nigeria, a country known for its
intolerance towards homosexuality, can you describe your younger years
and what it was like for you to cope with this intolerance?
A: I discovered that I was gay when I was only seven years old. My
mother noticed I was different from my brothers and sisters and she
thought I was sick so she brought me to churches and made me visit
witchdoctors to find out what was wrong with me.
When they concluded I was gay, I had no idea what that meant,
because I was still very young. My mother said that it was evil and I
had to be cured, which made me believe it was a bad thing to be gay and I
became afraid to talk about it.
However, it didn’t stop me from being who I am. At the age of
seventeen I was dating boys. My parents couldn’t take it anymore and
forced me to leave my home. My dad didn’t want to pay for my school
anymore so I also had to drop out of high school. At that age, it was
hard for me not to have a family or a home or friends. I had just my gay
friends, and still it was very lonely.
Q: What was your life like in Nigeria after you moved out of your home?
A: When I moved away from my home I felt free and did everything I
wanted. I had a very active sex life and it gave me such a liberating
feeling to finally be able to give in to it. Unfortunately, at that
point I didn’t know anything about condoms, lubricants or safe sex.
Things would’ve worked out differently if I had been better informed or
educated.
I found out that I was HIV-positive when I was 23 years old.
That’s also when I discovered what killed some of my closest gay friends
in Nigeria. That really hurt me and woke me up.
In Nigeria, it was like I was living a lie. In the streets you
cannot walk the way you want to walk and cannot openly confess you’re
gay. You have to say you’re straight if you want to have access to
something. You have to buckle up so much that at a certain point you
even start to believe your own lies.
Q: Progress has been made in preventing HIV, but stigmatisation,
violence and discrimination remain rampant. What are your thoughts on
this imbalance?
A: Gay people are not just being stigmatised in Africa but all
over the world. The worst part is that we are even being stigmatised in
our own communities. In the gay community, members are mostly struggling
with gay laws, the fight for gay rights and HIV prevention strategies,
but they somehow neglect gay people with HIV.
They fail to specifically talk about gays with HIV, because you
have to remember that a gay man with HIV is different from a gay man
without it. These are two different things.
Q: You are also an active gay rights activist both in Africa and
now also here in the United States. What message do you try to convey
through your work?
A: There are many organisations I am involved with, even now in
Africa, like ICARE, which is supported by the organisation African Men
for Sexual Health and Rights (AMSHR). I also recently started an
organisation here in the United States called African MSM Plus. It
focuses on counselling and supporting gay men with HIV.
I am also an IRM-advocate. IRMA is an organisation that fights for
more advanced rectal microbicide research for people who engage in anal
intercourse. In Africa I am also involved in an LGBT (lesbian, gay,
bisexual and transgendered) organisation called Mind Builders
initiative.
Unfortunately, these organisations in Africa have to work
“underground” because there is no tolerance for such gay community
centres. We have to hide, which is hard because we also offer walk-in
sessions. But we keep doing this work because it is necessary. We
shouldn’t only look at the challenges ahead of us but instead at our
successes.
My message is short and powerful: stay yourself, because you cannot stop people from thinking differently.
Q: In terms of violence and discrimination, what is the worst that has ever happened to you?
A: The night I was beaten up and attacked – it is all in my head.
Whenever I close my eyes, I can still see the guys that did this to me. I
try to forget, but every night in my sleep I still see them in front of
me, calling me a faggot. It is terrible, but it’s something I have to
live with for the rest of my life.
Culled From: Sahara Reporters
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