Thursday 7 September 2017

Baby-Hungry Single Women And Middle-Aged Men Who Are Increasingly Undergoing Vasectomy's To Avoid Having Kids

confessions that reveal a troubling battle of the sexes 
A man who sells roasted meat popularly known as Suya has pleaded guilty to the attempted murder a four-year-old girl before an Ebute Meta chief magistrates court in Lagos state.
Halilu Abdulahi, 40, was arraigned before Chief Magistrate Ajibade on a two-count charge of attempted murder and unlawful assault, the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reported.
The accused pleaded guilty to the charges preferred against him.
The prosecutor, Sgt Hafsat Ajibode, told the court that the accused committed the offences on August 18 at 5.35 pm at No 1, Denton street Ebute Meta.

She said the accused lured the four-year-old girl, Alimat Durojaiye, with biscuit while she was playing with her peers and had attempted to slice her throat with a knife.
“The accused had fled with the child to white Sand area in Oyingbo market where he attempted to cut her throat with a knife.
“A passerby, Muritala Mahmud, who heard the screaming of the minor, had rushed to save her, and in the process got his left hand bitten by the accused while trying to escape,”she said.
NAN stated that the offences contravened Sections 173 and 230 of the criminal law of Lagos state, 2015 (revised).
The incident was on Wednesday, August 30 confirmed by the out-gone Lagos state commissioner of police, Fatai Owoseni, who said that the man who tried to rescue the girl sustained a minor injury on his hand.
However, a brother to the suspect who identified himself simply as Ibrahim, attributed Abdulahi’s actions to mental instability.

In the video below, an alleged kidnapper is saved from an angry crowd by the police:

Is this the bravado of a deluded middle-aged man? Or the uncomfortable truth about dating as a divorced, evidently fertile male?
As a psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in couple counselling, I have discovered 

Dan is far from the only middle-aged divorced father choosing a vasectomy to safeguard his return to the dating market — to the extent that a recent survey found the most common age range for men undergoing the procedure is 41 to 45.
There are several factors behind this — the high rate of marital breakdown, men fearful of being ‘tricked’ and single women in their 30s and now even 40s suddenly experiencing the all-encompassing desire to become mothers. In some cases they are becoming increasingly predatory about seeking ‘father material’.

Dan Short (pictured), 50, underwent his vasectomy at the age of 43 +6
Dan Short (pictured), 50, underwent his vasectomy at the age of 43
Although convinced they didn’t want children while they built their careers, suddenly — bam! — their biological clock starts ticking. It really can happen overnight. They will do anything and everything to pursue this, even if it means duping a man into having unprotected sex.

Their targets, meanwhile, fear getting trapped in the wrong relationship, but also dread the financial implications of a new baby. After all, research suggests you’ll shell out as much as £230,000 caring for a child before he or she reaches 18: the figure doubles if you add in a private education.

If you don’t have the wealth of ageing celebrities such as Ronnie Wood or Rod Stewart, who have gone on to have second and even third families, then the impact on your life is going to be enormous.

As for whether taking such extreme action is merely wishful thinking, Dan claims that although it sounds ‘arrogant’, dating younger women ‘is very easy for men like me’. Combined with the fact that a man’s fertility is unending, this makes him vulnerable — so he needs to be continually responsible about sex.

That’s why Dan from Hastings underwent his vasectomy in 2010 at the age of 43. He says: ‘While it was an NHS procedure, it was performed at a private clinic. It was very professional: I was in and out fairly quickly one lunchtime without any complication afterwards either. Totally worth it for peace of mind.’
Dan, who works in the film industry, split up with the mother of his two sons in 2004, having been together 17 years.

‘Fortunately, at first, I had a serious relationship for four years with someone who didn’t want children,’ he says. ‘I then had a one-year relationship before embarking on a couple of short-term ones.

‘The women were typically in their 30s. If it looked as though we were going to sleep together, I always addressed the issue of children head on, explaining that my days of playing football every weekend with a toddler were long over.’
Dan recalls a number of awkward situations with those interested in more than an amorous affair: ‘But I’m someone who is very careful. I’ve never had unprotected sex.’
Currently single, he says: ‘I’m not looking for a relationship: I’ve just started a new job and my life is hectic already. If I want to unwind, I’ll pop along to my local pub for a pint with some friends.

‘I’ve done the small children phase of my life and it isn’t something I’d want to do again. It has upset some women and I appreciate that I’m being somewhat selfish.’

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